Jul 6, 2016
After taking a month off from The Single Mom Success Podcast I guess I should explain why I went MIA for a bit. There were many things that I was struggling with - lack of motivation, lack of focus, lack of interest and just a general BLAH feeling.
I brushed it off for quite some time thinking that if I just powered through everything would be ok and I would get back to 'normal'. I mean, I'm a single mom and a strong independent woman I can totally make myself better right?
Well that didn't happen. Things just got worse. I was at the point where I didn't care if I showered for the day, or 2 days or 4 days... I was losing clients because I wasn't focusing on my business. I was losing my temper with my children on a regular basis, for little to no reason.
I was a hot mess.
For the longest time I thought depression was something that other people dealt with. I mean, I'm not depressed. I'm not sad, I'm not lonely, I'm not unhappy - well not REALLY unhappy. I'm not suicidal and I don't cry all the time. That's what it means to be depressed right?
It took a couple of months and some seriously deep soul searching for me to realize that I truly had something wrong with me that wasn't just going to go away if I willed it to. No amount of 'me time' or meditation was fixing what was wrong. So I finally went to the doctor and discussed what was going on with me.
And she confirmed what I probably knew deep DEEP down - I was struggling with depression. And while yes the symptoms above are also associated with depression so were my symptoms. Lack of motivation, lack of interest in anything, lack of focus.
This podcast goes deeper into my process and how I got to this point. But I will say, I am starting to feel much better. I am podcasting again and things are starting to really improve!
The main point of this podcast is to get help if you need it. Regardless of what that help may need to be. You may not be struggling with depression but maybe you need someone to help with your kids for one night a week so you can get in that valuable 'you time'. Or maybe you need to reach out to family and ask for help with your bills this month.
Regardless of what it is, the biggest thing that I have found lately is that no woman is an island. As single mothers we need to be able to admit that we need help sometimes, even when we are so used to doing it all on our own. But you have to ask for it.
Don't be too proud. Don't be too stubborn. It is hard to do for many of us, but if you need help you gotta ask for it. Because we are no good to our children if we are falling apart.